Question 11 // What’s the difference between familiarity and a loss of passion? (feat. Ben Gowell)
Ben Gowell (@bengowell for all you fellow Instagram junkies) is not only one of the most professional guitarist/producer/mix-engineer/songwriters that I know but he’s also one of the wisest people I’ve ever spent time with. I’ve looked up to Ben for years and because of that, this conversation goes all over the map and deep pretty quick. This one’s for those of you out there in need of life advice from a wise older brother who’s really been there (no pun intended)… so grab a Scotch, throw on some quality headphones, and feel free to share a booth with us.
In this episode we talk about:
- Realizing that nobody you look up to ever feels like they have ‘arrived’
- EVERYONE had to work hard to be good, no exceptions. Everyone you look up to had to put in time and work in that you didn’t see.
-Take chances and live an adventure. Don’t be paralyzed by future planning
-The need for healthy confidence
-Family: Thankfulness for strong supportive wives, dealing with being GONE on the road while in a relationship and learning to be a parent while being a musician.
- “GET ADDICTED TO THE PROCESS!”
- battling entitlement or expectation
-"The human problem with familiarity": How Ben actively reminds himself to take stock in what he’s grateful for and his thoughts on confusing familiarity with a loss of passion
-Welcoming different seasons of life: 'always be open to new seasons of joy'
- “You can’t know things you don't know” - not wasting any energy or time on regrets
- The importance of keeping your word
- Practicing awkward confrontations: it doesn’t come easy to anyone
Quotes Worth Tattooing from Ben:
"You can’t know things you don't know”
"GET ADDICTED TO THE PROCESS!”
"Always Be Open To New Seasons Of Joy"
“Don’t confuse familiarity with a loss of passion"
If you’d like to contact Ben, you can find him on social media here:
Recording Location: The Happy Gnome, St. Paul MN
Drink: Laphroaig 10yr Scotch
I’m so thankful that I don’t have to deal with sponsors.
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Whew… so thankful I don’t need to deal with that crap. I’d feel so dirty having to tell you that this episode was sponsored by Bittercube Bitters NO WAY IN HELL am I going to tell you that Bittercube has been featured in Martha Stewart’s Everyday Food, Playboy, Imbibe Magazine, Timeout, Chicago Tribune, New York Times, Bloomberg BusinessWeek, GO – AirTran Inflight Magazine, Milwaukee Journal-Sentinel, NPR, and Daily Candy, among other publications.
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